One of the most popular articles on our site is our Back to School list of 6 tips for helping your children deal with tech temptations. That list helps you, the parent, ensure that they remain focused and on task, starting out the school year strong. This time around, we have a list for your children so sit back, digest the info and then present it to them! It will help them keep the drama to a minimum this school year. [Read more...]
Online Sex Predators Arrested, Keeping Your Child From Becoming Sex Site Material
Information about one of the largest rings of online sexual predators was recently unsealed, providing the kind of fodder that news organizations and internet alarmists thrive on. This paragraph taken from a Department of Justice press release, “Operation Delego, an ongoing investigation that was launched in December 2009, targeted the 72 charged defendants and more than 500 additional individuals around the world for their participation in Dreamboard – a private, members-only, online bulletin board that was created and operated to promote pedophilia and encourage the sexual abuse of very young children, in an environment designed to avoid law enforcement detection.” Still pretty scary, even to the level-headed, no?
As Digital Shepherds endeavors to hit the brick and mortars (‘net slang for actual, offline locations) and educate as many parents as possible about the interwebz, our aim is ALWAYS to steer clear of alarmist rhetoric and just give the facts. I have my own bias in areas, but I really strive to simply present fact based information and let mom and dad decide for themselves what they will implement in their own homes. That said, I still talk to them about teaching their children about “online stranger danger” and the need for that is even more apparent in light of the incident outlined above. What may not be as apparent is that our middle school age children need to know that these rings and many others like them exist. But if this one was focused on children 12 and under, why tell middle schoolers? (Warning: blurred image of the type which can be found on the non-pedophile sites we’re talking about in this post) [Read more...]
Is CA SB919 Enough To Stop Sexting?
Recently, I was asked to consult for a local district PTSA Legislation Committee on matters involving families/students and technology. The first piece of legislation we are taking a look at is CA Senate Bill 919 which makes “sexting” an offense which carries the penalty of suspension from school, or expulsion, statewide. Though the bill has been passed by the California State Senate, it still needs to be approved in the Assembly and must be signed into law by Gov. Brown. At first glance, I have a couple issues with the bill: [Read more...]
The Link Between Australia, Cyberbullying And California SB 1411

I almost wrote that title as “What does Cyberbullying, Australia and California have in common?” It sounded too much like the start of a bad joke but the content of this post is no laughing matter. According to the Brisbane Times in Australia, two pre-teen girls who were “accused of hacking into a classmate’s Facebook page and posting sexually explicit photos and messages have been charged with cyberstalking and first-degree computer trespassing.” So, how does that effect California half way across the world? Read on to find out. [Read more...]
How To Avoid Online Scams

As many of our readers may know, Osama Bin Laden was recently killed during military action by the United States. What many of our readers may not know is that major news events like his death provide a wealth of opportunities for scammers and hackers to infect computers. According to Marian Merritt with Norton, within 3 hours of his death, hackers were already busy infecting computers across the internet with fake links to pictures and videos of his death which were disseminated via email, fake web links and social networking sites like Facebook. Matter of fact, even on my daughter’s own Facebook page the reach of these scams was very visible as some of her own classmates had already fallen victim to the nefarious links (click to enlarge image above).
So, what can we as parents do to ensure that, in this day and age, where major news events like Bin Laden’s death, the Royal Wedding and even Lindsay Lohan’s ongoing drama create opportunities for hackers to ply their trade? I’ve put together a list of best practices to follow to keep you and your children safe. [Read more...]
McWorld: Happy Meals For Trojan Horses
The Happy Meal is almost as American as apple pie. I still remember how excited I was as a kid to see that meal box (many with puzzles and fun games on them) and how I couldn’t wait to rip into those golden fries, burger and eventually make my way to the toy… sweet satisfaction! And THAT response, those memories are exactly what the folks at the golden arches were counting on. Creating a bond with the brand based on those iconic boxes with prizes inside in the hopes they had you as a lifelong customer. Unfortunately for them, my mom cooked fresh food the vast majority of the time and I rarely eat Mickey D’s as an adult (which isn’t to say that I don’t enjoy other fast food more than I should). In today’s online world, the guys at the golden arches want to create those same emotional ties but they’re now doing it in a manner which is much more subtle and utilizing an age-old tactic dating back to the fabled Trojan Horse. [Read more...]
Conversations With Our Kids: The Mobile “Locker Room”
“Locker room talk.” Undoubtedly, we’ve all heard the phrase, commonly referring to conversations held by men in the privacy of a sports or gym locker room of some sort and often characterized by coarse, sexist, sexual or explicit discourse of some sort. For many decades in our culture, the men’s locker room has been seen as the sanctuary for “hallowed” conversations about female conquests, guy talk and most any other subject having to do with men’s “true feelings/thoughts” about the fairer sex. But, that was then. [Read more...]
Facebook: New Safety Resources For Families
Yesterday Facebook debuted it’s revamped family safety center, giving parents of some of the 600 million users who are in the 13-17 age group greater resources for navigating the world of social networking, Facebook style. If you’re a regular reader here at Digital Shepherds online, you may already be familiar with many of the tips Facebook shares with parents in a special section of the family safety center aimed at, you, the parent. If your child has been through our Tech-Connected Teen assembly then they’re definitely knowledgeable of many of the things that the family center discusses in the section aimed at teens.
Putting the information online in one place is definitely a great step in the right direction and Facebook stepping up to meet the ever-evolving landscape of the social interwebz is absolutely necessary for a site with so many children on it. There are still things I don’t like about some of the products the site has, like Places (you can read my take on that here), but that’s why it is so important for parents who allow their children to have a Facebook page to be aware of what’s going on on that site and how their children are using it. Facebook is like a town… it’s an online community and just like in your own towns, you wouldn’t just allow your young children to roam freely unchecked and Facebook isn’t the place to allow it either.
Make some time to sit down and look at the expanded social reporting features (translation=features on posts, comments and “apps” which allow users to “report” inflammatory, offensive and cyberbullying behaviors), the section for parents, teens and educators (they even have a section for law enforcement). As always, above and beyond what Facebook has stated in their family safety center (particularly for young users):
- Always assume that anything you post to the social networking sites, including Facebook, is public.
- Personally, I don’t think young users should be utilizing Facebook Places. Why? See the first point.
- Instead of Facebook, have your tweens and teens check out other social networking sites specifically designed for children t(w)eens. Among our favorites are YourSphere and Togetherville.
- They say it in the parent center, but it bears repeating… TALK, TALK, TALK. It is social networking and therefore there is social interaction involved. Children need your guidance and modeling when it comes to interacting with others in their world… online and offline.
National Robotics Week At USC
Today I took my sons to USC for their Robotics Open House in honor of National Robotics Week. USC opened up some of the labs in their Neuroscience buildings and allowed people to ask some very friendly and knowledgeable engineers and programmers a bunch of questions. The tech we saw was very cool and though my boys tried to act somewhat nonchalant (they’re tweens and too cool for emoting at this stage), they were very attentive, even whipping out their Blackberries to take pictures and videos of what they were seeing. Below I’ve posted some videos and pictures of our visit. I’ll explain what I can remember and in some of the videos, you’ll actually be able to hear the students explain what is going on. Sorry I’m not big on details since the intention here wasn’t actually to capture the event to blog it. What I saw was so cool that I wanted to share it after the fact! I figure it’s important for us to keep technology in perspective and see things like this which remind us that tech, in an of itself, isn’t scary. [Read more...]
Sprint: Bill App Purchases To Your Cellphone Bill
National Daddy Daughter Tea Date
In my work, speaking directly to students from elementary up through high school, I get the chance to meet and talk to some young ladies who’ve sent bikini pictures, or worse, to boys in what amounts to a plea to be liked. In some cases, these girls are sending these pictures to their boyfriends as early as 6th grade (I’ve actually had some admit this to me personally) which is ten or eleven years old. These experiences lead to the idea to start a national movement to encourage dads to spend more quality time with their daughters, communicating their significance in an effort to combat what I and many others in the internet safety space are seeing. Although legislation, or the question of legislation, is a hot topic right now, we still have to deal with the root of this problem which is often the disconnect between daughter and dad. Often, when a girl feels valued by her father, she doesn’t go seeking that value in her male peers. A strong, healthy relationship with dad is a good indicator of emotional health and many other markers in young girls and one of the best ways to connect with our daughters is to take time to just sit and listen to them. Listen and engage them right where they “live,” so to speak, and any observant parent can see girls holding “tea parties” with dolls and stuffed animals or other makeshift parlor discussion type scenarios with dolls or stuffed animals which brings us to the National Daddy Daughter Tea. The personal emails and DMs on Twitter in response to my original post HERE is what ultimately set this in motion last year. [Read more...]
An Open Letter To Parents
Dear Moms and Dads,
My name is Tshaka Armstrong and almost 18 months ago I took upon myself the task of educating you about the tools available to you to help you better parent in this digital age and now have the privilege of teaching your children about being savvy and safe as they use the internet and other connected technologies (ie, cell phones, Nintendo DS’s, etc).
In this short time, I’ve learned a lot about the challenges and triumphs of this generation as they relate to technology use. There are brave teens striking out against some of the social ills that inappropriate use of connected tech are visiting on their peers! Unfortunately though, there are still many youths who find themselves adversely effected. There is much debate about how large the numbers really are and we don’t want to overstate the issue, but, personally, one child physically or emotionally victimized is too many and that is why I’m writing this letter. I’ve had to stare into the saddened eyes and heavy hearts of some of your children because they didn’t get some basic information or guidance from you in some areas. As a father who absolutely loves his own daughter, one of the worst feelings I’ve had to endure is having a young lady in grade school stand before me, in tears, and admit she made the mistake of “sexting” some boy. Scared, with good reason, to tell her parents. I just want to do the fatherly thing and hug her and tell her how sorry I am that an adult somewhere along the line may have let her down and how sorry I am that she’s now having to go through this. Even recounting the situation, I find myself choked up. [Read more...]
Childhood Development: The Digital Playpen
In recent weeks, there’s been some very astute analysis about the state of the “digital native” which has only further served to confirm a concept that has been swimming around in my head, birthed by a personal observation that, children don’t know near as much about all things digital as many parents think.
Having spoken to children from low income homes, all the way up to 30,000 dollar a year private schools I have to say that the thing I was most taken aback by was how much the children DIDN’T know regarding how to stay safe and make sensible decisions online. We’re talking all the way up to high school! Through our interactions with students around the topics of digital literacy and internet safety, we’ve found that many children operate the same as if you’d given them a car with no driver’s training. They can figure out how to push the gas, the brake and steer, but they’d be all over the road, breaking traffic laws they were unaware of and potentially find themselves unprepared for accident situations with no training in defensive driving and evasive maneuvers. I’ve been surprised that so many children with laptops that had webcams built-in didn’t realize how easy it was to record them engaging in risky behaviors while on camera. Their jaws often drop when I tell them there’s free screen recording software that allows for them to be recorded in a moment of indiscretion. I believe that this is why it is so very necessary to begin when children are young, teaching them how to be safe online. To that end, I’d like to introduce the notion of creating for them a “digital playpen” when they are toddling internet/mobile technology users. [Read more...]
Math Blaster Is Awesome!
Ok, let’s face it… many young boys love playing cops and robbers, superheroes, etc. They love to be physical and aggressive in many cases and while it is definitely our job as parents to guide and temper that aggression, we can also funnel it into constructive areas. One such area which I know most of you didn’t think I’d be saying is in the area of math learning. I know, “aggression” and “math” AND “learning” in the same sentence and we’re not talking about the frustration of having to learn calculus or trig?! Enter Jumpstart’s new gaming world, Math Blaster! [Read more...]
Parenting in the Digital Age

We had a great evening with the Valley Gateway Council of PTA’s! 13 PTA presidents and some “friends of Digital Shepherds” were in attendance last night as we presented our Parenting in the Digital Age workshop. Thank you to Monlux Elementary for hosting the meeting and to the President of the Valley Gateway Council for inviting us.
Another Facebook Privacy Change, Your Cell & Address
Friday, Facebook unleashed a new feature upon the masses. There was a public (the internet) uproar about it and Facebook has put the feature on hold but I expect to see it back up and running in one form or another soon. What it did was allowe third party app developers to access your phone number and contact information. To their credit, this was strictly an opt-in procedure. You know when you’re adding a game or app to your profile and you get that message that says:
Well, on Friday, below the paragraph about accessing your “basic information,” there was another heading which requested permission to “Access my contact information.” This was only your address and cell phone number and while it was opt-in, how often do you actually read the request for permission any more since it’s become standard fare at this point. For parents who have children on Facebook, this is definitely something you’re going to want to discuss with your little ones and I’d suggest removing their information all together just to be on the safe side. Facebook has a history of slipping info and I don’t trust it not to happen again. So, how do you remove your personal info? First, click on “Home” in the upper right hand corner of the screen and then “Edit My Profile” (as seen below):
Once you’ve done that, you will come to the screen where you can edit your profile settings. Click the link for “Contact Information” on the left pane and from there you can remove your cell phone number and address (as seen below):
And there you have it! You’ve now removed your personal info from the site so you don’t accidentally forget to clieck “Don’t Allow” next time that addictive, “must play” game is released.


















