One of the most popular articles on our site is our Back to School list of 6 tips for helping your children deal with tech temptations. That list helps you, the parent, ensure that they remain focused and on task, starting out the school year strong. This time around, we have a list for your children so sit back, digest the info and then present it to them! It will help them keep the drama to a minimum this school year. [Read more...]
Online Sex Predators Arrested, Keeping Your Child From Becoming Sex Site Material
Information about one of the largest rings of online sexual predators was recently unsealed, providing the kind of fodder that news organizations and internet alarmists thrive on. This paragraph taken from a Department of Justice press release, “Operation Delego, an ongoing investigation that was launched in December 2009, targeted the 72 charged defendants and more than 500 additional individuals around the world for their participation in Dreamboard – a private, members-only, online bulletin board that was created and operated to promote pedophilia and encourage the sexual abuse of very young children, in an environment designed to avoid law enforcement detection.” Still pretty scary, even to the level-headed, no?
As Digital Shepherds endeavors to hit the brick and mortars (‘net slang for actual, offline locations) and educate as many parents as possible about the interwebz, our aim is ALWAYS to steer clear of alarmist rhetoric and just give the facts. I have my own bias in areas, but I really strive to simply present fact based information and let mom and dad decide for themselves what they will implement in their own homes. That said, I still talk to them about teaching their children about “online stranger danger” and the need for that is even more apparent in light of the incident outlined above. What may not be as apparent is that our middle school age children need to know that these rings and many others like them exist. But if this one was focused on children 12 and under, why tell middle schoolers? (Warning: blurred image of the type which can be found on the non-pedophile sites we’re talking about in this post) [Read more...]
McWorld: Happy Meals For Trojan Horses
The Happy Meal is almost as American as apple pie. I still remember how excited I was as a kid to see that meal box (many with puzzles and fun games on them) and how I couldn’t wait to rip into those golden fries, burger and eventually make my way to the toy… sweet satisfaction! And THAT response, those memories are exactly what the folks at the golden arches were counting on. Creating a bond with the brand based on those iconic boxes with prizes inside in the hopes they had you as a lifelong customer. Unfortunately for them, my mom cooked fresh food the vast majority of the time and I rarely eat Mickey D’s as an adult (which isn’t to say that I don’t enjoy other fast food more than I should). In today’s online world, the guys at the golden arches want to create those same emotional ties but they’re now doing it in a manner which is much more subtle and utilizing an age-old tactic dating back to the fabled Trojan Horse. [Read more...]
Conversations With Our Kids: The Mobile “Locker Room”
“Locker room talk.” Undoubtedly, we’ve all heard the phrase, commonly referring to conversations held by men in the privacy of a sports or gym locker room of some sort and often characterized by coarse, sexist, sexual or explicit discourse of some sort. For many decades in our culture, the men’s locker room has been seen as the sanctuary for “hallowed” conversations about female conquests, guy talk and most any other subject having to do with men’s “true feelings/thoughts” about the fairer sex. But, that was then. [Read more...]
Facebook: New Safety Resources For Families
Yesterday Facebook debuted it’s revamped family safety center, giving parents of some of the 600 million users who are in the 13-17 age group greater resources for navigating the world of social networking, Facebook style. If you’re a regular reader here at Digital Shepherds online, you may already be familiar with many of the tips Facebook shares with parents in a special section of the family safety center aimed at, you, the parent. If your child has been through our Tech-Connected Teen assembly then they’re definitely knowledgeable of many of the things that the family center discusses in the section aimed at teens.
Putting the information online in one place is definitely a great step in the right direction and Facebook stepping up to meet the ever-evolving landscape of the social interwebz is absolutely necessary for a site with so many children on it. There are still things I don’t like about some of the products the site has, like Places (you can read my take on that here), but that’s why it is so important for parents who allow their children to have a Facebook page to be aware of what’s going on on that site and how their children are using it. Facebook is like a town… it’s an online community and just like in your own towns, you wouldn’t just allow your young children to roam freely unchecked and Facebook isn’t the place to allow it either.
Make some time to sit down and look at the expanded social reporting features (translation=features on posts, comments and “apps” which allow users to “report” inflammatory, offensive and cyberbullying behaviors), the section for parents, teens and educators (they even have a section for law enforcement). As always, above and beyond what Facebook has stated in their family safety center (particularly for young users):
- Always assume that anything you post to the social networking sites, including Facebook, is public.
- Personally, I don’t think young users should be utilizing Facebook Places. Why? See the first point.
- Instead of Facebook, have your tweens and teens check out other social networking sites specifically designed for children t(w)eens. Among our favorites are YourSphere and Togetherville.
- They say it in the parent center, but it bears repeating… TALK, TALK, TALK. It is social networking and therefore there is social interaction involved. Children need your guidance and modeling when it comes to interacting with others in their world… online and offline.
An Open Letter To Parents
Dear Moms and Dads,
My name is Tshaka Armstrong and almost 18 months ago I took upon myself the task of educating you about the tools available to you to help you better parent in this digital age and now have the privilege of teaching your children about being savvy and safe as they use the internet and other connected technologies (ie, cell phones, Nintendo DS’s, etc).
In this short time, I’ve learned a lot about the challenges and triumphs of this generation as they relate to technology use. There are brave teens striking out against some of the social ills that inappropriate use of connected tech are visiting on their peers! Unfortunately though, there are still many youths who find themselves adversely effected. There is much debate about how large the numbers really are and we don’t want to overstate the issue, but, personally, one child physically or emotionally victimized is too many and that is why I’m writing this letter. I’ve had to stare into the saddened eyes and heavy hearts of some of your children because they didn’t get some basic information or guidance from you in some areas. As a father who absolutely loves his own daughter, one of the worst feelings I’ve had to endure is having a young lady in grade school stand before me, in tears, and admit she made the mistake of “sexting” some boy. Scared, with good reason, to tell her parents. I just want to do the fatherly thing and hug her and tell her how sorry I am that an adult somewhere along the line may have let her down and how sorry I am that she’s now having to go through this. Even recounting the situation, I find myself choked up. [Read more...]
Childhood Development: The Digital Playpen
In recent weeks, there’s been some very astute analysis about the state of the “digital native” which has only further served to confirm a concept that has been swimming around in my head, birthed by a personal observation that, children don’t know near as much about all things digital as many parents think.
Having spoken to children from low income homes, all the way up to 30,000 dollar a year private schools I have to say that the thing I was most taken aback by was how much the children DIDN’T know regarding how to stay safe and make sensible decisions online. We’re talking all the way up to high school! Through our interactions with students around the topics of digital literacy and internet safety, we’ve found that many children operate the same as if you’d given them a car with no driver’s training. They can figure out how to push the gas, the brake and steer, but they’d be all over the road, breaking traffic laws they were unaware of and potentially find themselves unprepared for accident situations with no training in defensive driving and evasive maneuvers. I’ve been surprised that so many children with laptops that had webcams built-in didn’t realize how easy it was to record them engaging in risky behaviors while on camera. Their jaws often drop when I tell them there’s free screen recording software that allows for them to be recorded in a moment of indiscretion. I believe that this is why it is so very necessary to begin when children are young, teaching them how to be safe online. To that end, I’d like to introduce the notion of creating for them a “digital playpen” when they are toddling internet/mobile technology users. [Read more...]
Parenting in the Digital Age

We had a great evening with the Valley Gateway Council of PTA’s! 13 PTA presidents and some “friends of Digital Shepherds” were in attendance last night as we presented our Parenting in the Digital Age workshop. Thank you to Monlux Elementary for hosting the meeting and to the President of the Valley Gateway Council for inviting us.










