First, Sexting. Now, Sextortion and 5 tips to prevent it.

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I know you may be thinking, “Oh Lord. What now?” Yeah, there’s always something new in town on the web but this is nothing new. Just a new take on an old idea. The concept is simple: Some guy gets his hands on some not so appropriate images of your daughter (and in some cases, your son) and then uses those photos to extort her to perform sex acts via webcam or more photos, telling her that if she doesn’t want those original photos to go out to all of her family and friends, she better comply with his demands. There’s the story which hit the news, about a 40 year old man from Massachusetts who posed as a 17 year old to gain nude photos from underage girls, then extort them into performing sex acts on webcam. There’s also Anthony Stancl, an 18 year old senior who posed as a girl on Facebook to get nude photos of 30 of his fellow male classmates. He was arrested and is now doing 15 years in prison.

This is happening to teenagers and in some cases tweens, so what can you do to lessen the chances that your child will become a victim of one of these internet predators? We’ve outlined 5 steps you can take to help combat this problem.

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The Daddy/Daughter Tea Tweet Up!

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So, I wrote a post the other day about dads taking their daughters to tea (you do not have to look like the gentleman in the pic to do so! Lol) and had some great personal messages sent to me as a response to that post. Those responses inspired an idea. It was kind of timely because I was looking at all the social networking I’m involved with and feeling like there’s so much talk and not enough action. Not that talk is a bad thing at all, but I want more from my social media interactions. Then there are the investigative stories I’ve been doing for Fox and the young ladies who seem to be getting prayed upon so much these days whether it’s by sexting or internet problems like sextortion, and we’re back to the idea. Organize and mobilize dads from as many parts of the globe as possible with the focus being on building stronger relationships with our daughters through the age old past time of High Tea. Why Tea? Read HERE for the answer to that.

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How To: Taking Your Daughter to Tea

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Today’s post is about dads using technology to connect with their daughters. Specifically, I’m talking about taking your daughter to tea and some of the wonderful resources out there which will help prepare you for the outing. In the scope of this brief post, I will impart to you some things I’ve learned from taking my daughter to tea and point you in the direction of some web resources you may use to help you find just the right spot for you and your “baby girl.”

What is “Tea?”

“Tea” or more commonly, tea time, is just that, a time to sit down, slow down and just enjoy drinking some tea and having conversation. It can be done at home or at a tea house. If traveling to a tea house, make sure to call ahead of time because some actually require a reservation or have certain hours scheduled throughout the day for tea time.

Variety is the spice of life and many cultures have traditional tea houses. You might go to a Japanese tea house, or a British tea house, or maybe even an Ethiopian tea house. The location is up to you and your daughter. I let mine choose, so it’s kind of like a game for us. We get to go around the world through tea houses. Read the rest of this entry »

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Microsoft Kinect: Achievement UNLOCKED!

Let me start this blog post off by saying that I’m not a gamer in the traditional sense, I only play now and then with my sons who are young gamers. The last time I did a serious stint of gaming was with Dragonball Z: Budokai. I beat the game, of course but I just don’t find much time in my daily, or weekend routine to invest in beating games. In the business that I’m in, I read a lot of blogs and visit trade shows so I stay abreast of the latest gadgets and often times, they don’t live completely up to the hype. I even find myself underwhelmed more than I’d like. In the case of Microsoft’s Project Natal, which was released to the public as Xbox Kinect, I’m giddy.

I got a chance to see it first hand at the E3 (Electronic Entertainment Expo) Expo at the Los Angeles Convention Center last week. I can completely see myself throwing down on some Dance Central with the family. One of the most impressive things I watched the system do is take a full body scan of individuals and give their measurements. Arm length, inseams, waist, hips…the whole deal. It was very cool! In addition to the titles I saw demo’d, there are other titles that I’m excited to see make their debut like Kinectimals and more Gym/Sports titles. The Kinect itself is a black “T” shaped piece that Microsoft has placed at the retail price point of $150.

Here are the videos I took of the product at E3. I edited them into one 2:30 piece so you’ll see Dance Central first, then Kinect Adventures! and then a little yoga for your high stress lives. Enjoy!

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New Study Finds A Decrease In Cyberbullying

McAfeee put out a new report [pdf download]  today titled, The Secret Online Lives of Teens. Commissioned by McAfee and conducted online by Harris Interactive from May 4th to May 17th, 2010, the study surveyed almost 1,400 youths between the ages of 10 and 17 years old in the U.S. on “how they use the internet, what kind of content and media they view and download, and their level of engagement in risky online behavior.” One of the promising finds of this study appears to be a decrease in the instances of cyberbullying. According to the study, 8% surveyed said they’d been the victim of cyberbullying while 87% answered “no,” leaving 5% of those surveyed in the “weren’t sure” if I’ve been cyberbullied category. These numbers are down from 2008 when they were 15% were victimized, 76% weren’t and 9% “weren’t sure” if they had been. The report had some very interesting information beyond just cyberbullying though.

How They Handle Personal Information

The rest of the study produced some positive data as well as some which parents might find disturbing. The good news is that though these children are giving out personal information, most of it is nothing more than they’re already giving out on sites like Facebook. “When they do reveal personal information online, youth are most likely to share their first name (36%), age (28%), and/or email address (19%). Only around one in ten have given out slightly more personal information, like a photo of themselves, their school name, last name, cell phone number, or a description of what they look like.”(pg.11) As a parent, it is still disturbing since this information also shows that since 2008, the number of teens who’ve given their phone number out has increased from 8% to 12%. Again, this is due in large part to an increase in the number of youths using social media like Facebook and the fact that much of this same information is posted to many of these same teens’ Facebook accounts.

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Parenting in the Digital Age 101 & 102

Join us Saturday, May 22nd for our two, one-hour digital literacy workshops! We’ll be teaching parents how to set up parental controls built into OSs and third party software as well. In session two, we’ll be talking about video games and cell phones and how parents can stay on top of what their children are playing and who is texting. The workshops are free to all who attend. Check out the flyer below for the full details:

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New 5 Way Calling On Skype

I remember as a kid, the big deal on phones was being able to 1. Have my own landline and 2. Three-way calling some buddies. Soon, your children will know a similar excitement thanks to Skype. Beginning May 10th, Skype is rolling out a beta download which will allow users to video conference with up to five people for free…for a limited time. This is going to happen thanks to an new Group Video Calling feature and gives your little ones just one more way to connect to their pals via video chat. As always, we preach the virtues of preparation over panic and as technologies like this mature and become more ubiquitous just be sure that you have those computers (this includes laptops) in public areas of the home where the threat of prying eyes – yours- helps keep young ones’ actions on camera appropriate and in line with whatever values you’re teaching in your home.

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Community+Child Monitoring=UnitedParents.com

Recently I sat down for a Skype chat with the head of a new company offering something very promising in the parental control/family management software segment, Hanan Lavy of United Parents Online. A friend had forwarded an article about his company and I found myself intrigued by what was written so I figured I’d get in touch with them through their UnitedParents.com portal and get some more information. What we spoke about could prove to be the future of child monitoring software and I must admit that the geek in me is giddy with anticipation, provided it fully delivers.

So, what is it that United Parents Online is offering? Through UnitedParents.com they’re offering what I can best describe as an early warning system for parents. This is not software which alerts you to inappropriate contact alone, though it does do that. This is not software that is reactive, though it does offer parental notifications via email or sms if there is a problem with inappopriate online interactions, or even “iffy” ones. This is, however, software which utilizes up to 30 parameters of analysis to digitally fingerprint individuals who are attempting what is deemed by the parent (and other system conditions), to be inappropriate contact before the contact has become overtly problematic. To put this in english, imagine having the FBI’s Cyber Crimes detectives at your beck and call, monitoring your child’s interactions with people online. They are monitoring your child’s conversations, but most importantly, they’re monitoring what is being said by the person interacting with your child. Someone asking too many times for a picture of your child? A red flag is sent up. Someone asking persistently about meeting your child offline or for your child’s address? Another red flag is sent up. Your child lies about their age and is conversing with someone quite a bit their senior? Red flag. That’s UnitedParents.com.

How does UnitedParents’ software know how to flag individuals? When using the software, parents are greeted with configuration settings which allow them to input various information including the childs age. The system used by UnitedParents.com begins creating a logical fingerprint, which is a fancy way to say, a profile of the individual and their M.O. and sends this information across it’s network to stop this individual from having any further contact with any children using software or services that has the United Parents’ software solution integrated into it. The idea here is that the software will be integrated into Instant Messaging applications and social networking sites so that when there are “persons of interest,” there will be quite a broad network of users protected. The initial release of the beta software from UnitedParents is targeted at business who provide the instant messaging services and social networking sites, followed up a few months later by a software offering for personal use.

One thing you may wonder is if someone who is actually your child’s age is contacting your child and asking to share a picture, maybe a well known school friend or trusted relative like a cousin, how does the software handle that? In the case of gray areas, the parental notification features kick in and parents are notified as a cautionary measure. Though not available to the public yet, we here at Digital Shepherds will be keeping a close eye on the developments with United Parents Online to see what develops for the personal user in the future, as well as how they fare with getting businesses to pick up their product and integrate into highly trafficked social messaging destinations. When we’re able, we’ll bring you a full review of the personal product.

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Digital Shepherds Talks to Ted Chen on Sunday in LA

Digital Shepherds founders Tshaka and Kelli Armstrong were invited to KNBC’s Sunday in LA show to discuss safeguarding your children in the digital age. You can check out the interview below. A special thanks to Tyne Whitmore and Reva Hicks for making this possible!

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DS Attends YMCA’s Healthy Kids Day

Today we took part in the West Valley YMCA, Healthy Kids Day event and what a great time we had! The West Valley “Y” put on a great event complete with All-You-Can-Eat pancakes, demonstrations from some of the local martial arts instructors, a ballet demonstration and much more. Los Angeles City Councilman Dennis P. Zine (3rd District) gave an opening address in the morning to get things started after local Police ROTC led visitors in the Pledge of Allegiance. By the end of the day, many parents signed up to to check out our classes, many tummies were full on pancakes and the children were able to take pictures with Elmo, Dora the Explorer and one of the Ninja Turtles.

Digital Shepherds would like to extend a hearty “thank you,” to all the wonderful moms and dads who came out to the Healthy Kids Day event. Thank you for visiting the Digital Shepherds booth. We appreciate your enthusiasm for the work we do and thank you for helping raise money to support the West Valley YMCA!

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